The Secret to Buying a Happy Home
-or- How to avoid a divorce, illness, job loss, or worse..
When you buy a home, what you are buying is the next phase of your life. By the end of this article, you’ll know some major things to look for.
Why would you want to imagine what it’s like to live in their shoes?
If you buy their home, you will begin to live the same life. If it’s a wonderful life, buy now. But unless you use “Feng Shui eyes” you could be in for an unexpected turn of events. In my experience, homes don’t lie. Rarely is a home so toxic it can’t be solved, but it does happen. Most often, the energy can be adjusted but if you don’t know the difference–you’ll be in for trouble.
Things that matter when buying a home:
The Outside: Neighborhood, Land, Style & Layout
The Inside: Style, Layout, Colors, Shapes & Items
Feng Shui wisdom can save you a trip to the divorce attorney or worse. If you find a home that you love and that home has some challenging Feng Shui issues, you can usually reverse the negatives by making some changes that won’t cost a fortune: that’s the beauty of the science of Feng Shui.
determines your ability to be effective in the world
1. A healthy and vibrant neighborhood: good life force means you won’t be drained or asked to devote YOUR energy to keep it vital. It will support you rather than drain you.
2. A healthy business district, health trees, well-maintained homes, gardens and streets.
3. Not directly near a cemetery, hospital or church –while these are important aspects of a community, living too near these can deplete your own health. Avoid living near a prison or municipal buildings such as Fire Station, Police Station or water treatment plant.
4. Traffic – make sure it’s not coming directly toward your home, and you are not on a one-way street (you’ll be stunted in your ability to move in your life), nor are you near a fast-moving highway or traffic pattern.
5. Not overshadowed by larger buildings and watch out for “poison arrows” which are structures that would point dangerously at the house (corners of other buildings, oncoming traffic, land features such as rushing water) cell towers, electric towers, etc.
The Outside – The Land
determines your lot in life…choose property that :
1. Has the ‘armchair’ position:
a. Has a strong backing: a gentle hill behind the house. If there is no hill, this backing can be accomplished by a strong treeline.
b. A beautiful view from the front door, onto an open vista. A hill or uphill grade in front of the home will set you up for an “uphill battle” every day.
c. Soft support on either side, similar to a comfortable armchair.
d. A flat “seat”, wide enough to allow graceful ease around the home, at best a flat space at least the width of the home all around it.
2. Where the home is positioned on the lot is also very important, too close to the front and you won’t be able to relax, close to the back and you could become a hermit.
3. Look for dead trees, the direction and flow of streams, underground streams, overhead wires, transformers, etc. These are all negative drains on your life force.
The Outside: Layout and Style of the House
1. Style is important. If it doesn’t reflect who you are your self-esteem will suffer as will your fame and reputation. You will find it difficult to live your fullest and be “who you are”.
2. Construction: choose a good solid construction and one that supports your Feng Shui energy. I use Nine Star Ki to determine the energy of my clients, it aligns space, place and time so that you can know how to choose color, shape and material that supports your energy.
3. Layout and shape of the home. Exterior things to consider:
a. When a garage is the first thing you see as you approach and enter your home, the pace of your life will increase and you’ll find yourself always “coming and going.”
b. Make certain the path to your front door is obvious, beautiful, well-marked and well-maintained.
c. A lot of homes today have the “McMansion” look of many angles and bump-outs. Done well, this creates interest, but many are not done well. Look closely at the proportions, the angles and the real relevance of those builder ‘features’.
d. ‘Missing” areas: these are spaces in the layout where the home doesn’t form a rectangle. If the far right-hand corner of your home’s layout is ‘missing’ you are setting yourself up for divorce or struggle in romance and partnership. On the other hand, if you have a room or addition that extends out in this area, there will be a dramatic imbalance in the relationship favoring the women to the detriment of the men living there, the partnerships and marriage.
e. Chinese saying: “the bigger the bedroom, the higher the divorce rate.” Comfortable, “not so big” spaces engender more intimacy which is a hallmark of a good marriage.
True Story: Every day on my way home I would pass a large and beautiful home being newly constructed and become very sad. I wanted to tell the builder and the owners: “Stop! You’ll get a divorce if you move in to this home.” I wanted to tell them how to correct this feature that they obviously loved but couldn’t: professional ethics prevent me from freely offering my Feng Shui advice, many reasons but one is that perhaps that is the path this couple needed to take. Three years later a “for sale” sign went up and I asked a friend why. You know the answer already: they were getting a divorce. Since then another family has moved in. I wish I could tell them.
4. Layout: Interior things to consider:
a. Front door opens onto an entry way/foyer.
b. Line of sight does not go straight through the house.
c. Long hallways that cut through the home will cause illness and family splits.
d. Staircase to upper floors does not spill out the front door (this will deplete your health)
e. Bathrooms not over kitchen.
f. Bedrooms not over garage.
g. Master bedroom in command of the house (don’t give the children the largest and best bedroom, they will rule the house and the family will suffer). Bedroom doors at the top of the steps lead to illness and depletion; low ceilings and sharp corners from dormers etc., keep children from growing to their full capacity.
h. There are many other things to consider and a full list would be tedious. Watch the flow from room to room, the ability to be private and the ability to easily place furniture where everyone is well-supported.
The History of the Land and Occupants
If the previous owners suffered misfortune, you can bet that it is in the home. If you purchase a home cheaply due to bankruptcy, divorce, or death, substance abuse, (name it) you will be buying the same fate unless you spend some of your time, energy and Feng Shui wisdom to change it. Determine how much of your own life force it is worth to you to turn the tide; it can be worth it but you must take the steps or you will be repeating the pattern. At the very, very least, have the property blessed and cleared before you move in and frequently thereafter.
Even if you have time to learn Feng Shui, I recommend you contact a Feng Shui Professional to help you. It may sound heady to say that when you are buying a home you are playing with your life and your fortunes but that is the truth.
Have any questions? Ask here or leave a comment! Have any home-buying stories? I’d love to hear them!
Next up: The Inside of Your New Home