Quick Tips for A Delightful Holiday
If you find that you are harried and hurried and not enjoying those feelings (sometimes being frantic it is a LOT of fun), this list will give you a few ideas to add some time and delete some scattered-ness from your life.
- “Pre-PROGRAM” EACH DAY: At the beginning of the day (or any event) see it going smoothly and effortlessly. When you re-script your day and see things working out the way you’d like them to, you begin to draw to you the things that you need. It seems magical, but “Any sufficiently advanced technology is usually indistinguishable from magic.” (Arthur C. Clarke) Write the script for your day, see yourself beautiful, happy, easily accepted and hold the feelings. You will be amazed. For more on that, see my post about Intentional Feng Shui; it works!
- PRIORITIZE Everything according to your heart: When considering Holiday events and activities but them through the test: Which ones bring you most joy? Most Peace? Most return on your time and energy investment? Saying “NO” to things is not going away from those you love or respect, it is an act of personal power. Give yourself a day to respond to invitations and then be true to you and what you value most. You’ll have much more to give when you are fully centered, poised and present. You will be giving yourself and the world a precious gift…You.
- OUTSOURCE: Your most precious resource is your time and feeling nature. When you actually look at the amount of time you spend on a task, you may be surprised that your hourly rate might be less than minimum wage. Decide what you really, really love to do, do that and delegate…once and for all and let it go. You might be surprised how well things actually do go. (I let Whole Foods cook my Thanksgiving Dinner and it was fantastic; I got to cook just the dishes we really love and enjoy my family all day long.).
- GIVE LOVED ONES FUN JOBS: A young mother at Starbucks was making my coffee and mentioned how frustrated she was with her young children bickering and fighting. I told her they needed jobs to help direct all that extra energy and excitement. She said, “I tell them to clean their rooms and do their chores,” and I interrupted: “those aren’t fun jobs”…Here are some fun jobs to give kids and family members a sense of your joy in making this time of your special: 1) Ask them to decide how they want to decorate their rooms by drawing a picture of it for you. (spends time drawing and gets them excited)…then tell them they’ll have to clean it up before they decorate so it looks just perfect! 2) Put out a few crayons and papers and ask them to draw their Santa’s list. 3) Engage them in your tasks: ask them to make suggestions for the menu on Christmas Eve, or how they’d decorate, or whom they’d seat next to whom at Christmas Dinner, have them make place cards and see what happens–don’t forget to wink at them. 4) Ask them to put all the Christmas books and movies together in one place. 5) Ask them to go through their toy collection and put in a laundry basket everything that they don’t use so that they can donate it to charity. 6) Ask them to place all broken or parts of toys in a special box to make room for what Santa will bring them. Kids (and adults) just want to be useful and kids’ currency is attention, they’ll do just about anything for attention–good or bad. When they think they are contributing and getting your attention for helpful things they do, you’ll discover a side to Christmas you always knew would be there
- KEEP LUXURY TIME AND FUN ON YOUR PRIORITY LIST: Every day schedule and do something that will enliven your Spirit. (after all, it’s not called the “Rat Race of Christmas”…). A warm cup of your favorite tea, a nap, saying NO to that extra load of laundry, looking for the morning star, smiling at yourself in the mirror. Schedule some corn-y old fun: I guarantee you you’ll have memories that make you smile.
- FENG SHUI TIPS:
~ Keep the knives out of sight and remove the carving knives from dinner table; this will help keep arguments to a minimum.
~ A round or oval dining table gives the best energy for an enjoyable dinner.
~ Add something yellow or golden to the center of the table, place a beautiful saying underneath each chair (“I am healthy and happy, safe and loved.”)
~ Limit the amount of red this holiday, focus on softness and gentle peace. ~ Focus on you, your own place in the world and stepping up to be the best version of you. There’s a lot of extra emotional fire energy flying around, opt for soft gold, glowing blues or rich greens.
~ Allow for breathing room: out with the old, in with the new (or newly loved and re-freshened). When adding your decor or any gifts, remove whatever else you can. Patty Kraemer, of Kraemer Connect suggests: “one thing in, and two things out!” Clear all last year’s clutter, donate all you can’t or don’t use, leave some things empty and open. This will bring freshness and more light into your entertaining.
- WRITE YOUR WISH LIST: Just because we are ‘grown-ups’ doesn’t mean the magic of Santa isn’t really there. The metaphor of Santa is even more powerful as we understand that we always get what we are asking for. There is no degree of difficulty for the Universal Life Force: it can create a person as easily as a mountain, a planet and a Universe, so get on it and ask. Make your list of what you want and put it away until next year…then check off all that you got! It can be things, events, feelings, anything! Be honest, don’t edit it, just ask! What would I love to do next year? What do you want to say at the end of next year about how 2011 went for you? What’s on your list?
You are the expert in your life: did you have fun?