Sleep: the Best Work you can do all day
If you think that 5 hours a night is all you need, you might be surprised to learn you are actually sleep deprived, operating with a diminished IQ, immune system and a decreased ability to be efficient or effective, impossible to show up as healthy in your relationships. All of which severely impair your ability to be effective, healthy, and happy.
Dr. Gary Feldman ( Sleep Basics for Children and Parents )
states that over 47 million American adults are what is termed ‘sleep deprived’, not getting the 7-8 hours per night they need to function. Teenagers, need 9 hours per night and children need more, up to 16 hours per day for infants.
The BBC has a fun test (and a great website) where you can check your own response time to tell how sleep deprived you might be: Sheep Dash
Keys to good sleep:
— Get enough exercise in the day to expend excess energy, release and develop endorphins. Fresh air and nature help you sleep.
— Establish a good daily routine and a good going-to-bed routine.
— Limit sugar, caffeine, white flour, and eating before bedtime.
— Create a calming, “wind down” phase and make it predictable
— Limit video and audio input; instead read, meditate.
— Be consistent.
— Set up your bedroom for sleep success.
Feng Shui for good sleep:
Remember my article about the most important room in your home? Your bedroom is responsible for the most important activity of the day: sleep.
1. Eliminate clutter in your room, especially from under your bed.
2. Remove or cover mirrors, remove vibrant art work or artwork with water in it. Limit photos of people
3. Remove electronics and Electro-magnetic affects. Eliminate computers, TV, etc. Place your clock and phone across the room.
4. Monitor what you are feeding your brain before you go to bed.
5. If your bedroom is above your kitchen or a garage, you could have sleep problems. Use the ‘mirror’ cure: place a round mirror under your bed (this will be easy because there is no other clutter there, right?) and face the reflective side down. With your intention say, “good luck with that down there, I draw the boundary for myself.”
6. Avoid bright colors, patterns and bright lights; use calm tones; warm rich “flesh” tones (light yellows, beige to pinks, browns and cocoas) for enhancing relationships, cool tones (light green or blue) for distance and separation increasing independence.
Have a Teenager?
My research was initiated by my desire to learn how to stay connected to my teenage sons.
In his book Staying Connected to Your Teenager Michael Riera, Ph.D. states,
“given the current configuration of most school districts, teenagers are unintentionally set up to accumulate serious sleep debt, which in turn impinges on their moods, concentration, stress levels, and general ability to learn.” A conservative estimate is that teens, on a weekly basis accrue a sleep debt of about 13-15 hours. “Sleep experts agree that for every hour of sleep debt we accrue, we lose one point from our function IQ.”
PS: if you want to be available to connect with your teen, hang out in the kitchen after midnight–it’s when they are ready to blab away. Be sure you are doing something, not just waiting to ambush. Your best response: ‘ah-huh, oohhhh, hmmmm, really?” It seems like a good book; I plan to review it for you soon.